It’s my Monday off (I have every other Monday off) and I haven’t done much today except watch nexflix, eat, and take a nap. I always say I’m going to be productive on my days off, but I never am. However, I can definitely justify the nap because I was up all night(well technically morning) from about 2:30 am until 5:00 am watching the news to make sure we weren’t about to be hit by a tornado. There were several tornado warnings out for our area, but all we got were thunderstorms. I went back to sleep once Will went to work. Then I had to get up at 6 to get the kids ready for school. I stayed up for a little bit, played around on facebook, and then took an hour nap. I have to go back to work tomorrow and I’m not too excited about that. I’m still praying to find a job I can work from home. I’d rather be here in case the kids get sick and need to stay home. I have 3 kids so usually when one gets sick the others follow a few days later. Sometimes I even get sick. But until I can find something from home, I’ll keep the job I have and try not to stress out so much.

I was just thinking today how nice it’s been that we haven’t spoken to my mil in awhile and then my hubby comes home and tells me that my mil called and left him a hateful voicemail. She is so delusional that it’s not even funny. She said that my hubby uses her and never calls unless he wants something. Oh and she also said that she guessed he was going to keep the kids away from her. Wow. She is just…wow. That’s all I can say. Ok, for one, she’s never done much of anything for the hubby. And when she, her husband, and her 2 youngest kids moved back to the state back in the summer, she stayed with us. Will and Jake helped them move their things into the storage building. When they stayed here, their kids ate all of the snack stuff in my house and I didn’t say one word to them about it. I knew it would start a fight so I just kept my mouth shut because I knew they would only be here a week. Will has always been the one that they have come to when they needed something. And most of the times, if he was able to, helped them. So it’s aggravating that she’s making herself out to be the victim. But that’s how she is. Also, no, I’m not letting her see the kids. She talks about me whenever my kids are at her house. She’s not the most mentally stable person. There’s no telling what kind of lies she’d tell my kids while I wasn’t there. Oh and of course, my hubby’s stepbrother’s wife, is just the greatest person ever according to my mil. I know it shouldn’t bother me, but it does. I mean this girl has only been married to my bil for a couple of years. I’ve been married to Will for nearly 12 years and I’m still not good enough. And yes, she has told me in an email that I’m not good enough to be in her family. Will tells me not to listen but I’m just not used to someone being that hateful to me….

I hated having to miss work two days in a row. My gall bladder has been acting up and if anyone has ever dealt with that, you know how painful that is. I woke up early Tuesday morning with these awful burps, then I started throwing up (tmi, I know), then I felt all bloated and my stomach hurt so much. It was like a searing pain that radiated from the top of my stomach all the way to my back. I went back to sleep around 4:30 am. I just felt so ill on Tuesday that I called in. I have leave but not a whole lot. I’ve only been there 2 months so I felt crappy taking off. But what was I supposed to do. I got an appointment to go to the dr today so I took a sick day. She said she really thinks it’s my gall bladder since all that only happens whenever I eat certain foods (greasy or fatty foods). So I am really going to try to cut back and stay away from stuff that has a lot of grease or fat. Eh, I need to eat better anyway so this will just give me a good reason.

I felt guilty for not going into work though. I mean it’s not like they really needed me, but still. It seems like every since I’ve started working either me or one of the kids gets sick. I just pray that I am able to go to work and build my leave back up. My ultimate goal is to get a job working from home because I think that it would benefit the kids and me. I just have to find something making close to what I’m making now. So if you don’t mind, please pray for me.

On a different note…. My oldest son now has a girlfriend. He’s always had girl friends but this is his first “real” girlfriend. What’s so cool is that his gf’s aunt is one of my mom’s best friends so I’ve known her family for as long as I can remember. She takes dance and she’s home schooled. She lives about 45 minutes away so my son doesn’t get to see her except on the weekend. Well, they talk on skype so I guess they actually do get to see each other in a way. I just can’t believe he’s old enough to have a gf. It seems like just yesterday he was starting school and playing with Hot Wheels. Now he’s all about girls and Xbox lol.

If you’ve ever had to deal with a narcissist, you will recognize exactly what I’m talking about. I know first hand from dealing with my mother-in-law just what they put people through.
First of all, they are never wrong.Ever. And since they are never wrong, you will never get an apology from them. At the most, they’ll just start talking to you like you never had an argument in the first place.
Narcissists also have to make themselves feel important. They usually do this by either hyping up their degrees/jobs and usually, putting others down. They are also very good at projecting their flaws onto others as well. For instance, my mil will tell me that people don’t like me, that I’m fat and stupid. When the truth is, people don’t really like her because of her attitude, she’s overweight herself, and she has some of the poorest grammar and spelling skills I’ve ever seen.
They are also very adept to playing the victim. They never tell both sides of the story. They just talk about how badly someone treated them but fail to include what they did to get treated that way. And people who don’t know them very well often fall for it. The people who do know them well don’t say anything negative to them because they know they will get the same treatment.
Oh and narcissists tend to be very malicious and hateful. They will think of the most viscous things to say to you just to get your attention. They always have to have the last word. The best thing to do is let them have it. They will wear you down because they will just keep finding things to insult you about. I used to think that if I let my mil have the last word that she was “winning” the argument. But I realized that she was just dragging me down to her level and I didn’t want to be the kind of person she is.
I don’t really think there is any way to get along with a person like this. I have realized the best thing to do is have as little to do with my mil as possible. My mil said she wasn’t going to call my hubby right now, but he could call her. He told me that she would be waiting for a long time and that she’d call him before he’d call her. And that’s pretty much what will happen. She’ll need something from him and she’ll call him. I’m not going to tell him he can’t talk to her. But I refuse to. I am not going to be disrespected like that and I don’t have to put up with it. I’m done trying to get along with her because she’s a narcissist. Eh,I guess it shouldn’t upset me that much that she treats me the way she does. She has treated her own blood relatives the same way. I know for a fact most of her family just tolerates her but I’m sure they can’t wait for her to leave. She’s never going to actually make an effort to treat me decent and I know that.

This guest post from Edgardo Rosa

I wonder if the divorce rate correlates with the rate of home Security solutions. That was the first thing I thought of when my mom and dad got divorced. My dad moved out and my mom was going to be living all alone. I didn’t like the thought of that. I mean I was pretty emotional, that after 28 years of marriage my dad would just give up. The most hurtful thing was him telling her that he had never loved her. That just makes all of my sweet family memories seem like a lie. That makes me feel like he wasn’t happy for my whole life. I made some pretty rash decisions during that time of their divorce. I broke up with the guy I was dating, told my dad that I was never speaking to him again, and had a security system installed in my mom’s house. Even though they were rash those decisions turned out to be really good ones. It removed most of the stress that I was having in my life and allowed me to just breathe.